They’ll be sorry . . .
Marriage therapists are now advocating the use of “performance reviews” by spouses, according to an article in Monday’s Wall Street Journal. “By taking time to regularly evaluate and review their relationship together,” reporter Elizabeth Bernstein says, “partners can recognize what is and isn’t working — and identify goals for improvement — long before problems become entrenched and irresolvable.”
Oh, yeah? Well, I can tell those therapists a thing or two about performance evaluations. Here is my open letter to the marriage therapists of America.
(DISCLAIMER: The following is a parody, and John and Mary are fictitious characters. Any resemblance to actual persons, living or deceased, is purely coincidental.)
Dear Marriage Therapists of America:
Annual performance reviews for married couples sounds so logical and reasonable, doesn’t it? But you may wish to consult with employers, some of whom advocate dispensing with the performance review altogether. As an attorney who represents employers, let me share with you just a few of the things we’ve seen go wrong with the annual performance review.
*The reviewer tries so hard not to offend that she fails to address the problems that she needed to address. If a boss has this much trouble giving constructive criticism to an employee, how do you propose that it will work in the context of a marriage?
*Grade inflation. (Caused by same desire to prevent hurt feelings.)